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Jake Kubetz, a young lawyer and National Guardsman from New York, was featured in our Spring 2005 newsletter, which described how he
used HeartMath tools to deal with the stress of preparing for his deployment to the war in Iraq. Recently returned from his tour of
duty, Jake agreed to share some of his experiences while abroad and coming home, and how HeartMath was helpful in his reintegration.
Jake says:
"When I arrived in Iraq, there were new situations and new stressors to deal with minute by minute. The moment we landed, I had
to present myself before superior officers to assess what role I would play when a mortar attack hit! My first day, and already they
were that close, trying to kill us! At the same time, I was being evaluated by the other officers and had to put my best foot forward.
Talk about a stressful job interview! There was only one place to go: I shifted to my heart. With the Quick Coherence technique, I handled
the situation with calm and poise. I got in touch with the knowing that I could handle it, and keep my cool. I wish everyone had been as
prepared as I was to deal with the stress that we were under. Thanks to HeartMath, I made it back in good spirits; it was the best weapon
I had over there, and the only one I brought back with me and continue to use.
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"Thanks to HeartMath, I made it back in good spirits; it was the best weapon I had over there, and the only one I brought back with me and continue to use"
Since my return, everyone seems to want to talk to me about the war and give me their opinion about the whole thing. From my vantage
point, I did what I had to do there to stay in integrity with myself, and all I want now is for all my friends to come home alive—for
everyone to come home intact. I would worry about the soldiers who are still there, but I send heart to them instead. I know that the only
reason I got to come home is because some other guy took my place, so I send him a lot of appreciation.
You would think that getting home would be the easy part, but it’s had its own stressors. The heart tools helped me to readjust to life
in the States and the culture shock of coming back.
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Reconnecting with my family and girlfriend—everyone wanted me to make special time for them. HeartMath helped me communicate my
care to them, without getting overwhelmed by their demands.
Having practiced HeartMath on a real battlefield, now I use it in courtroom battles all the time. Just recently, I had to do a deposition
with victims and witnesses of an ugly sex crime. As I approached the court room, I could feel the stress creeping in. I did the Quick
Coherence technique and it helped me line up with my care for the people, which made it easy. HeartMath helps me focus on what I really
need to focus on, bringing perspective to my life that also empowers me to let go of what doesn’t matter.
The life experiences I’ve had over the last two years, when met with HeartMath tools, have left me with a lot more appreciation
for the little things in life. My life is a lot simpler now. I appreciate just getting to go to work, just being with my family and my
girlfriend, growing a garden in my backyard with herbs and tomatoes and soy beans, and walking my dog on the beach. The heart empowers
me to appreciate these little things—which are really the important things—so much more, and to let go of what just
doesn’t matter.
Other people deal with extremely stressful situations in their lives. I am not special. I just had the HeartMath game plan for
dealing with the stress. And from my vantage point, everyone else would be better off if they did
too."
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